Saturday, November 8, 2025

Chapter 5: Finding Our Way

Picture it. Sicily, 2025. If you are a fan of the TV show Golden Girls, you will get the joke. As I write this post, I am sitting on the balcony of our cabin, on a cruise ship, entering the port of Siracusa (Sicily), Italy. This is our retirement trip. It has been a month since I last worked, although I’ve only been officially retired for a total of seven days. The objective of the trip, along with it being a celebration, is to break the habit of the daily work routine. I think it is starting to work. I’ve been monitoring the health app on my watch and phone. Stress levels are down, blood pressure is good, and sleep numbers are better than I have ever seen them.

Last week, I shared the story of our first attempt at financial planning. Although this was a valuable lesson, it did not contribute to our early retirement. However, the lessons learned did get us to where we are today. I attribute any success we’ve had to this early education and the following five things. First, our parents, who showed us by their examples what being financially responsible meant. Second, being a very young family with very limited resources taught us how to live modestly. Third, an old friend who, when I asked him for financial advice a long time ago, simply said pay off your debts, short term first, then long term. Fourth, the book The Wealthy Barber and author David Chilton, who explained, among other things, the magic of compound interest. Fifth, two of the most incredible women we have ever had the pleasure to know. These ladies were/are our personal bankers at TD Bank. When we were ready, both personally and financially, to build our plan, they took us by the hand and started walking us through the process, step by step. We are forever grateful to both. More on them later.

After the Investors Group fiasco, we became very tainted by the whole financial planning industry. Over time, as we got older and gained more life experience, the sting dissipated. Well, it did for me. Fortunately, to keep me grounded, I had a secret weapon, my wife. She has inherited a long-standing family tradition. She doesn’t forget. As a couple, we complement each other. In my younger years, I was the sucker. If it sounded like a good idea, I would be first in line to take the bait. Her extreme sense of caution would be the virtual slap upside the head I needed to snap me out of the dream. I am thankful for the red flags she has raised and, looking back, I wish I had paid attention to a few more than I did.

Securing your financial future is important and it is not my intention to devalue all planners. In fact, I know a lot of people who have had great success working with some very astute professionals. We understand now that the money we were investing was not enough to get an invitation to the group of highflyers Fred was attracting, so he handed us off. From a business perspective (that I did not have forty years ago), I get it. But it still stings. Truth is, we did not have the disposable income at that point of our lives to be in this game anyway, so I guess the outcome was a blessing in disguise.

Nex time, I’m going to write about the best investment we ever made and how it contributed to the life we have lived. Hope you can join me.

Chapter 16 - The Budget

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